7.21.2016

Dressing For Yourself

I was wearing these white flats the other day while shopping on Melrose with a friend.  I made a reference to my new shoes, to which she replied with simply a quiet smile.

...hm.  Ok.  :-/
"You don't like them, do you?" I said.
She giggled and shook her head.  The fact was, I hadn't gotten a single compliment on these shoes since I got them.

"Nobody likes these shoes!"  I exclaimed, and we both started laughing.  "They were $250 and no one likes them."

"Well," She said.  "You better wear those shoes then!  Who cares?  Wear them and get your moneys worth out of them!"

She was right.  Who cares?  I love them to bits and besides,  I'd been wearing them so much it was too late to take them back so I might as well get their worth.  I felt a bit silly for depending on compliments to convince me of my purchase but...
Being a style blogger, it's easy to get used to wearing and styling clothes for the show-and-tell of it all.  It's easy to lose myself in the "performance" of dressing - like wearing something I know everyone will love even if I don't love it as much... or not wearing something I adore because I know it won't rate too high with others.

Have you ever found the most perfect dress in the world only to find you never get a single compliment when you wear it?  It's a drag.  But does that mean it was a waste?  Have you ever bought something because it was totally on trend and people would love it on you even though you personally couldn't care much for it?  You don't have to be a style blogger to get sucked into the performance as well.  With social media, fashion forums, and just the height and broadness of the fashion industry nowadays, we all can get an applause now for an outfit well done.  And oh, how tantalizing that is!

But while dressing for others can certainly be useful (interviews, auditions, ex-boyfriends) it was nice to be reminded by my friend that at the end of the day, you've got to wear it so you better love it. 

Even if no one tells you they love it too.
The show-and-tell of it all is such fun but dressing in spite of it all, now that truly cultivates a strong personal style.  And an amazing, one of a kind wardrobe!

Happy Thursday to you all!
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17 comments:

  1. Love this! And you're friend is right - who cares if nobody else likes the shoes! *The Rock Voice* IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT THEY LIKE! ;)

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  2. I could not agree more! I have worn hairstyles that I don't feel sexy in but others love, shoes that really hurt my feet for the sake of a compliment, dresses that I personally love because they're so beautifully made and simple, but not one compliment. You are spot on ... as usual.

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  3. I say rock those shoes as long as you can! I'm glad I came to read your blog post b/c I wasn't really that hip on those shoes from your IG, but damn if I don't love this sentiment.

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    1. Haha! Thank you, Ashley! You know after writing the post, I love these shoes even more. Thanks for reading!

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  4. You know what's funny about this post is that, I typically make purchases that I believe no one WILL LIKE. My [twin] sister would always say, "they are ugly, why would you buy them," and I'd say, because (a) no one else will have them, and (b), I like them! I tend to dress for me most times, but working in a business environment which oftentimes doesn't allow for creativity (for real tho!), has stifled me sometimes. I still have flare, I still have me and I style have my own style, from ugly to really nice and always in tune with me.

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  5. Your friend is absolutely right because at the end of the day, isn't it all about how you feel? Isn't it all about your unique sense of style? What makes you, you? I don't think they would look as great on me as they do on you which is why everything isn't for everyone and that's quite alright. As for me, if in my eyes something looks good on me, if it compliments my figure and makes me feel great then I am buying it and couldn't care less what anyone else thinks. They'll just have to eventually get use to it and if not, then oh well as long as I'm happy haha.. Great post. They look absolutely adorable on you.

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    1. I totally agree with you. It is ALL about how it makes YOU feel. Thank you for the compliment and for stopping by and reading!

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  6. Before i even read the post you're shoes caught my eye because they reminded me of a pair i had back in the early 90's but much flatter and tan coloured. I love the look of them, they're very reminiscent of 60's style.

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  7. I think they make your legs look pretty. They make you feel good and that is what really matters. If YOU like them, then it was money well spent.

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    1. Thank you, Eadie - you're totally right. And thanks for the compliment!

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  8. I can't for the life of me figure out why people wouldn't love those shoes. I would rock them proudly. I'm so glad you touched on a subject too many bloggers are afraid to address. Dressing for your personal style is empowering. Brava.

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    1. LOL that's totally how I felt. I really do love them! But sometime we stand alone with our tastes and that's ok :) thanks so much for reading!

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  9. love this post, and ironically enough i showed my bestie the shoes a few posts ago and she could not get into them lol but i swoon over them and im not a fan of white shoes generally...i said all that to say, thank you for reminding me that dressing for me is why i fell in love with fashion in the first place. i needed this.

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  10. Those shoes are fire! I like the entire ensemble! As a matter of fact, you've just inspired me to break out these white shoes I have had for a while and haven't paired them up with anything yet. It is so on! You're such an inspiration!

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