I was wearing these white flats the other day while shopping on Melrose with a friend. I made a reference to my new shoes, to which she replied with simply a quiet smile.
...hm. Ok. :-/
"You don't like them, do you?" I said.
She giggled and shook her head. The fact was, I hadn't gotten a single compliment on these shoes since I got them.
"Nobody likes these shoes!" I exclaimed, and we both started laughing. "They were $250 and no one likes them."
"Well," She said. "You better wear those shoes then! Who cares? Wear them and get your moneys worth out of them!"
She was right. Who cares? I love them to bits and besides, I'd been wearing them so much it was too late to take them back so I might as well get their worth. I felt a bit silly for depending on compliments to convince me of my purchase but...
Being a style blogger, it's easy to get used to wearing and styling clothes for the show-and-tell of it all. It's easy to lose myself in the "performance" of dressing - like wearing something I know everyone will love even if I don't love it as much... or not wearing something I adore because I know it won't rate too high with others.
Have you ever found the most perfect dress in the world only to find you never get a single compliment when you wear it? It's a drag. But does that mean it was a waste? Have you ever bought something because it was totally on trend and people would love it on you even though you personally couldn't care much for it? You don't have to be a style blogger to get sucked into the performance as well. With social media, fashion forums, and just the height and broadness of the fashion industry nowadays, we all can get an applause now for an outfit well done. And oh, how tantalizing that is!
But while dressing for others can certainly be useful (interviews, auditions, ex-boyfriends) it was nice to be reminded by my friend that at the end of the day, you've got to wear it so you better love it.
Even if no one tells you they love it too.
The show-and-tell of it all is such fun but dressing in spite of it all, now that truly cultivates a strong personal style. And an amazing, one of a kind wardrobe!
Happy Thursday to you all!
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